Let’s talk about kissing. It is one of the little things that can make your day. I mean light you up, shoot you up, and keep you day dreaming all throughout the entire week (if done properly). Animals even kiss! I don’t care if they don’t have lips, once those little mouths touch or nuzzle up to one another they are showing affection. Think about, getting up so close to someone face takes trust, a sign of letting your guard down (unless you’ve been drinking, then it could just be because you can’t see diddly squat).
But here’s the kicker- why is that if this is such a simple, loving way to show affection do we sometimes fake it? Why do we take something so lovely and tarnish it into something as robotic as blinking? I know we have all been there! If you’re saying to yourself at this moment that this is absurd and you have kissed every time because you truly wanted to and not to fill some sort of void (awkward silence, because it seemed the like the ‘right’ thing to do in that situation, or because you were just fishing for something else), then congrats, you’ve now made it into the Pinocchio club.
Julia Roberts had the right idea in Pretty Woman; no kissing, it was just sex, kissing is a more intimate act. The problem here is that we live in a society where, well, casual sex or sex without any real commitment happens. Where there is sex, there is kissing. The two are bound together, but coitus should not always be directly correlated with kissing. Have you ever slept with someone and kissed them, and felt nothing? Either you were there and felt nothing from the other person, or it seemed the other person was there and you felt, well, nothing? I have, and let me tell you, sometimes it’s better to leave sex as just sex (if that’s what you were really looking for). Kissing can damper ‘just sex’. Here you are doing a pretty personal act, and then the even more intimate act of kissing comes along… BAM! Nothing… not a thing, makes you wonder if this is an indicator of the sex you’re having.
Could I be looking at this too much? Probably, but men and women are different. But at one point or another this might have crept up, that thought, that moment of, “Maybe we shouldn’t kiss…”.
If for no other reason than a social experiment, try it out. Kiss those you truly want to kiss and know that they will reciprocate (not just because you think it’s the thing to do, or they ask for it). Kissing at it’s best (for us Homo sapiens sapiens ) involves two people who truly have exhausted all the hand holding there is.
Or a lot of alcohol.