I have been having a problem for the last month or so at work. It’s a problem I honestly never thought I would personally encounter. Re-reading that last sentence makes me feel stupid… I mean, I am the girl who has had just about all crazy things happen to her when it comes to men (and some not… I will share one day). So what’s the problem you ask? Well, let’s see how do I put this…. ah-
My boss’s husband is hitting on me!
This man who has no respect for the sanctity of marriage is making my daily task of opening my outlook the most dreaded act. Without fail I have an e-mail from him everyday, and everyday those e-mails say incredibly inappropriate things. Things that make me feel incredibly uncomfortable. How uncomfortable? I want to take a baseball bat and swing it at his head (most likely the one he is probably thinking with). I have one of the shortest spans of patience for stupidity and insolence…trust me, ask any of my close friends, and they’ll tell you to run for the hills. He is a psychologist, I work with mental health professionals, and here is this jackass saying things that are completely uncalled for! Making my emotional well being render a response of violence! I don’t even want to wear my below the knee skirt anymore.
What to do?!
Socially I am stuck between Scylla and Charybdis (or a rock and hard place). He is my boss’s husband. I am not even three months in my job, and I at the moment am the front runner for a promotion in another department. Society might tell me to not rock the boat, and just let him know in a nice way that I would like to keep this professional, and that I should not let a higher up know. But my moral, cut the crap, and ethics advice me to let someone know. To have his attention called on so that this sort of things does not repeat itself.
Well, it’s too late for the latter. The sick feeling in my stomach about this situation led me to talk to one of the girls in the office who had from the beginning said something to me about him; something along the lines of “watch out for that one”.
Apparently this son of a bitch did the same thing to her, and some other girl (who he successfully bedded). So now, even more so my feminist blood boils. How could I just let this go?! Why should he just calmly go about his day with only a “please stop” from me, and not one from a higher up who can document this kind of behavior. Women do NOT need this in the workplace. I DO NOT NEED THIS IN MY WORK PLACE.
And for those of you who might be questioning if I provoked it, I didn’t. I don’t wear anything that reveals anything (the only time I revealed anything was downstairs in the lobby restaurant where my blouse came undone). I never once spoke at all to him, except the expected ‘hi, good morning, have a good day’ that society and well mannered people say in a workplace. There is no justification. My mind can’t comprehend that.
My friend asked me, “does he read your blog”
what if he does?! Does it say ” Hi, I’m a completely into married men, and infidelity with overweight men???!!”
No, it does not. I am one of the shallowest people when it comes to pairing myself up with a guy… seriously these men have about 4% body fat and are young…It’s all part of my BDD, and validation (yes, I have problems there, which I am trying to fix, slowly). So if he does, what makes him think he has a chance? There is a higher chance a live dinosaur walking into the room and asking for a coca-cola with a side of human at my office, than that happening.
If you have any ideas or suggestions I would kindly take them to heart.
On a side note, I feel awful for my boss… she is so wonderfully nice, and here she is married to troglodyte douche bag.