Have you, or any of your girlfriends ever experienced the ever so popular tool used by men (some of them, not all) known as the disappearing act? Don’t know what the disappearing act is? It is a mechanism that a man uses when for unknown reasons, or multiple reasons (no one really knows… this is still being contested since the men can’t even explain why they do it themselves) they fall of the face of the Earth.
You have been talking to a guy for a couple of weeks or even a months, you exchange calls, texts, hangout. etc. You’ve always been able to get through to him, and if not he would reply that same day. Then, one day, your call goes unanswered, your texts don’t receive a reply. Days turn into a week, and weeks then turn into month. You start to wonder if there might have been some kind of terrible accident, or he is somewhere where there is no form of communication (like the Amazon). But then you start to question yourself; was I becoming too clingy? Did I say something that bothered him? Did he find another girl with a larger rack, and Sofia Vergara like butt?? This is the Disappearing Act.
After a couple of days or even a week, you’ve decided that this inconsiderate sad excuse for a man is no longer worth your trouble. Just as you say this to yourself you look at your phone to find a text/missed call from such d-bag.
Now like I’ve said before, no knows why exactly men feel the need to practice this method of cowardice. I have asked many of my guy friends why they felt at one point in their life to do this to another person, a person they were apparently so previously fond of before, and there is no real reason, just a blank stare… and then ” I don’t know why, really.”
We women can beat our heads raw trying to figure out this mystery, but you will never get an answer you feel is justifiable. The worse thing we could do in this situation is question our actions, well, unless you called 20x’s in one day and sent over 10 texts asking where he is and why he hasn’t responded.
I ended the scenario with the text/missed called for a reason. There are cases in which the men like to finish their Disappearing Act with the big ‘TADA!’, and either;
- Act like they were never MIA, and you are just being delusional when you decide to bring it up.
- Or call to give you some cockamamie story (bullshit story) of what happened to them in the ‘Amazon’. They will try and lure you back with sweet nothings in your ear, and even say that they never meant to hurt you if they did.
Now, let’s get one thing clear; you are a lady. Therefore knowing the possible outcomes of this scenario gives you the rational to either not pick up the call or if you do, just have yourself end the relationship yourself. Why would you spend any more of your time on a person who didn’t have the decency to call you or tell you in person that for reasons A or B they needed a break/or would like to stay as just friends? Basic human decency is all one can expect from another, so it is unacceptable to have it blatantly disregarded.
So next time this happens to you, get up from your chair and leave the magic show. It’s a crappy trick who amuses no one. I suggest going paying a visit to the man who can juggle multiple rings, or balls. Now THAT is a trick worth seeing!