I have some words of wisdom, or more like common sense for women, or anyone really. When you are contacted by an acquaintance/friend that you have not seen in years, and they ask to see you, do a google search. No, I don’t mean in a stalker way, I mean in ‘do they have a mugshot’ kind of way.
This past weekend I was contacted by the aforementioned kind of person and to be honest the only reason I went on to google this person was because I had completely forgotten what he looked like. I knew I would find a picture of the guy, I mean he was a soccer player for the university and there should still be a pic of him in uniform from his former days. Apparently the first picture on my google search was his mugshot.
My first reaction- “He has a mugshot?!”
Second reaction- “Huh, he looks good…”
Third reaction- “He has a mugshot?! What the hell did he do?!” *scroll down the page to see his charge*
Apparently he was arrested because he had a warrant out on him and was not to leave the county. This did not sit will with me, I mean, what the hell is he doing out of the county again? Plus, I have been watching too much Dateline ID during my time off till I start my new job (tomorrow by the way), and a myriad of awful situations came rushing through my vivid imagination.
This guy has been wanting to get together ever since I finished school the first time, and I never really bothered. After seeing this new revelation I decided for the sake of my safety to have no connection to him (I don’t know what he was originally charged with), and not see him. I have already dated a a guy who was wanted by the police… unknowingly.
I was 18 and I met this guy at a very questionable party. How questionable? Well, my not so bright friends had taken me to a party where drug deals where apparently done on the kitchen table (I remember trying to find a quick exit out of the party, unfortunately my friends where not in the mood to leave, and Miami Beach is a bit scary after certain hours back in those days). His name was Hector, and he was very nice. He was friends with one of my friend’s, and walked us back to our car. Since I didn’t see him anywhere near any drugs transactions I thought he was clean (young stupid assumption). He asked for my number and we set a date. Our first date was a walk in a park; nice, no frills, and pleasant. He was only a couple of years older than me and thought it was really odd that he had such a nice Audi convertible TT Turbo, brand new and fully equipped. Our second date we went to see Finding Nemo in theaters. Drug dealers don’t like Disney movies? Yeah, that was another stupid assumption. This went on for a while, and one day my friend invited me to her place. As fate would have it, her cousin was a a cop and she had his password to get into the system. She asked me the name of the guy I was seeing. Now, please understand that I was still under the assumption that nothing would pop-up… to be young and incredibly naive… thank goodness I have wised up! Bam! There it was, his record. Multiple drug charges, and warrants out. Needless to say that I called him up and told him we could never see each other again. When he asked why, I told him I found out he was a dealer, and I don’t support any of those actions. He understood… now that I think about, it was one of the nicest break-ups I’ve had.
So back to 2013, and me, facing this mugshot. My psychologist once told me to make a list of what I am looking for a man, and well, a criminal record is most definitely not on that list.
Life Lesson: Do a google search, it is only the safe thing to do if you don’t really know the person or it has been years. Watch Dateline ID and you will see the crazy things that could possibly happen.
On a side note: I am no longer friend with the people I called friends in this story. I like to associate myself with people who don’t take me to questionable parties, or introduce me to drug dealers.