Happy Monday! I hope you all had a wonderful weekend, I know I had an interesting one. I’m sure you’ve all heard the saying “nothing good happens after 1am”, these are words to heed by. It all started while watching Sleepless in Seattle on a lonely Friday night. NOTE TO SELF: When crazy emotional status is reached due to watching sappy romantic comedies go to bed!! There is something special about watching Sleepless in Seattle in the sense that it gives everyone hope that you will meet the one person that is meant to for you or “MFEO” at the top of a the Empire State Building. I wont deny that everytime I am somewhere remotely romantic I get the feeling that a gorgeous man and I will lock eyes and walk out together hand in hand. Yes, I am well aware of how ridiculous that sounds, but how I not manifest such delusional fantasies when I watch movies like Sleepless in Seattle.
None the less, after the amazing Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan left hand in hand into the elevator of the Empire State Building (I am sure to live happily ever after) that I got to thinking (it is now after 1am). Times have changed; no longer do men go out on multiple dates and then if things escalate jump on a romantic getaway, nor do men respond to women who are professionally dressed and not showing skin to gain attention (maybe because I live in Miami, and men here only look at you if you if you’re half way dressed). So I buckled down and thought about what this day in age has to offer… THE INTERNET!! Well, to be completely honest I had help from the Match.com commercial that had just made its way after the movie (clever ploy by advertisers).
It was settled I was going to go and sign myself for Match.com. Why not? If the people on TV are happy then surely I can be too. I set up a really basic account; one pic, and no real depth on questions of what I like to do, movies I like, or anything of that sort. DONE! Within less than 48 hours I had 6 e-mails waiting for me, multiple winks, and some other sort of messaging (all of which I couldn’t even open because there was no way in hell that was going to pay for these services. I get drinks for free! I don’t think I should pay). Here is what I saw from the men that were in my area, interested , or “caught their attention”; They are old and out of shape, balding, have scary pictures (they look more like mug shots actually), and have a total lack of what I was looking for in a man, principally how I don’t want children! Ugh! It was hopeless, or at least here in Miami it is (and 50 miles away from here too). I didn’t want leave in such despair- thinking that these where the only kind of men out there, so I went and looked at the men in Chicago. Now that is a city full of diversity and genuinely nice looking handsome men.
I deactivated my account shortly after my 48 hour stint, and learned a couple of valuable lessons.
- Online dating is not for me. At the end of the day, I miss the feeling of butterflies in my stomach and getting to know the person for myself, not having them recite their attributes like a grocery list.
- I am not ready to meet any one. The nausea that immediately came from the e-mail notification that I had messages, winks, or any other sort of attention on me from someone else made me want to crawl under my bed and stay there. This I will deem as not healthy…
- I am still young enough to resort to going out and meeting a man the old fashion way 🙂
So, as a one time user of the famous website, I can’t really say much but thanks for lifting my spirits and letting me know that I am still attractive to some, hahaha.